In Assamese, there is a saying,”
Khong Naame Chondal”. That means if you are person who gets angry in the least
possible thing, then there is pretty much 100% possibilities to lost
everything. There are countless ways to get angry; similarly, there are
countless other ways to manage your anger. But, for the first, you have to
identify which things annoy you to get angry. Many of us get angry when tummy
is not full. So, if you are that kind of person then I suggest you to carry a
snakes bar in your pocket, or, you can learn to control your hunger (like
me..!!).
Main problem with anger
management is that the angry person doesn’t want to control his or her
emotions. All they want is to do something crazy which makes his or her
adrenaline level down. So, to control your anger you must act before you gets
angry, once you step forward then it is very hard to coming back. There are various
stories to describe that anger is a very bad emotion. But, if you can find your
own story then it would be the best among all. If you could just think what
would happen after you gets angry then I am sure that you can control your
anger. Sometimes, anger is a good thing too. But, that depends upon you how you
are going to use it. For example, it is said that Ferruccio Lamborghini started
his car production because he was insulted by Ferrari. So if he was being mad
and wanted to do something crazy like fighting with Ferrari officials, then we
probably won’t see the Lamborghini Aventador today (though me and most of us
can only afford a picture of it).
It is very important to learn
how to channelize the anger. You would find many obstacles in controlling your
anger. We all think that being angry is depends upon the people around us and
the environment we live in. nobody likes to take the blame. Nobody likes to
find out the main reason behind it. Thus, the main obstacle in controlling
anger is none other than us. We and only we are responsible for
everything. This is the main reason for
every devastating situation. Once someone understand that if he or she must not
get angry for whatever reason may be, then the scenario would have been much
better.
Before thinking how to control
the anger, let us think how to not get angry. If you think a little you can
find out that this phenomenon is not something that occurs instantly. Everyone
gets a feeling that he or she will go to get angry at someone or something in
the next few moments. So, before the next moment comes we have some time to
think about the future and the consequences. I am pretty sure that most of us
will cool down by thinking like this. Just by thinking we can prevent many
unwanted situations.
There are some incidents where
thinking about the future won’t prevent getting angry. So, at that time there
is a very good way to keep calm. This was suggested by many and everybody knows
it. It works to great many extant. The way is to count backward, from 100 to 0.
Like this, we can able to divert our mind from the anger evolving situation and
thus, eventually the anger cools down.
It is always better to laugh
than get angry. Internet says that when you are angry, 7 muscle groups
activated and when you are smiling only 3 muscle groups activated. So, my
advice is, please keep calm, stay away from anger, keep smiling and make others
smile, stay healthy… bye… bye….
(p.s.:- please comment with a
smile, don’t get angry)
