Anger management

In Assamese, there is a saying,” Khong Naame Chondal”. That means if you are person who gets angry in the least possible thing, then there is pretty much 100% possibilities to lost everything. There are countless ways to get angry; similarly, there are countless other ways to manage your anger. But, for the first, you have to identify which things annoy you to get angry. Many of us get angry when tummy is not full. So, if you are that kind of person then I suggest you to carry a snakes bar in your pocket, or, you can learn to control your hunger (like me..!!).

Main problem with anger management is that the angry person doesn’t want to control his or her emotions. All they want is to do something crazy which makes his or her adrenaline level down. So, to control your anger you must act before you gets angry, once you step forward then it is very hard to coming back. There are various stories to describe that anger is a very bad emotion. But, if you can find your own story then it would be the best among all. If you could just think what would happen after you gets angry then I am sure that you can control your anger. Sometimes, anger is a good thing too. But, that depends upon you how you are going to use it. For example, it is said that Ferruccio Lamborghini started his car production because he was insulted by Ferrari. So if he was being mad and wanted to do something crazy like fighting with Ferrari officials, then we probably won’t see the Lamborghini Aventador today (though me and most of us can only afford a picture of it).

It is very important to learn how to channelize the anger. You would find many obstacles in controlling your anger. We all think that being angry is depends upon the people around us and the environment we live in. nobody likes to take the blame. Nobody likes to find out the main reason behind it. Thus, the main obstacle in controlling anger is none other than us. We and only we are responsible for everything.  This is the main reason for every devastating situation. Once someone understand that if he or she must not get angry for whatever reason may be, then the scenario would have been much better.

Before thinking how to control the anger, let us think how to not get angry. If you think a little you can find out that this phenomenon is not something that occurs instantly. Everyone gets a feeling that he or she will go to get angry at someone or something in the next few moments. So, before the next moment comes we have some time to think about the future and the consequences. I am pretty sure that most of us will cool down by thinking like this. Just by thinking we can prevent many unwanted situations.

There are some incidents where thinking about the future won’t prevent getting angry. So, at that time there is a very good way to keep calm. This was suggested by many and everybody knows it. It works to great many extant. The way is to count backward, from 100 to 0. Like this, we can able to divert our mind from the anger evolving situation and thus, eventually the anger cools down.

It is always better to laugh than get angry. Internet says that when you are angry, 7 muscle groups activated and when you are smiling only 3 muscle groups activated. So, my advice is, please keep calm, stay away from anger, keep smiling and make others smile, stay healthy… bye… bye….

(p.s.:- please comment with a smile, don’t get angry)

Apology

MAA, against all odds, you always stand by my side, you protect me, feed me since I am with you. You are with me before I came to this world. You are always in touch with me. You have done so many things for me. You have sacrificed so many things and so many moments for me and with me. When I am alone, you  are always with me. In spite of all, I have not done a single thing for you and you still love me unconditionally. It's been three years I am away from you. I miss you a lot. I want to cry like a baby and sleep on your lap. I want to eat with you on your dish just like I did in the past. I miss how you feed me with your own hand. The food became more testy when you feed it. I never got that test of your hand and I am sure no one can bring that test again except you. Please feed me again when I am home, please let me sleep on your lap, please fondle with my hair. I miss all this thing very much. I don't want to miss all this any more. I am sorry that I can not be with you when you needed me. Please forgive me for that and I know you have already done that because your heart is so big that all my mistakes are forgiven instantly. For all this I want to bow myself in front of you and touch your feet. I am sorry and I really really really love you. I am incomplete without you. Please don't leave me alone.......

yesterday, i applied to join in indiblogger. don't know when or if they will approve my blog or not. hopping for the best....

(the below article was written by me on 28 November, 2012)  

     

   BUY the FREE

Hello Indians, I am  a BE 3^rd year mechanical engineering student, stayed in a privet hostel. For a hostel resident, there is nothing to do rather than sleeping or enjoying movie in laptop. I was also sleeping one day and something came to my mind by midnight, which I think, should be told to all of you. I think we should be very cheerful, because we all get everything for free, don't we? We are not spending money for lots of products right now, such as free internet available, free talk time etc. Or we are spending comparatively less money for some other things like LPG cylinder, kerosene oil, food grain etc. Among all, the most favorite free thing is the FREE SMSe and free DATA.

Well, let’s say about all this free or granted things, are they really free or granted? If your answer is affirmative, then think it twice. Have not you ever pay a single penny for the SMSes that you recently sent to your friend or girlfriend? Well, if you not paying for it now, then you must paid for it earlier (pre-paid), either when you brought that SIM card or recharge your number with massage packs (as they say!). After doing that, I mean recharging your phone with a certain amount; you are able to send the so called free massage. So the free SMSes is not for free at all, and the FREE internet also, because until and unless you recharge your phone with another amount, you can’t googled anything or can’t access to your most lovable place, the mighty Facebook.

Now talk about the concession. We can get almost everything on concession price, from water to gas, from railway ticket to the electricity, from kerosene oil to food grain and the very latest- a tablet computer (this is second of its kind, a better version of the first, which, I have not seen in any ones hand though!!). By the way, most of you know the problems associated with this type of low cost things, don’t you? If you get the water for concession then you may not able to take bath for the whole week, if you buy food grain, then there will be more pieces of rock than the food. If you want to get a concession ticket in railway then there will be more pain for issuing that then travelling. Now the recent activity of government is on the number of LPG cylinder. Recent rule says that we are allowed to consume only six cylinders per year. After that, you have to buy it for three times higher price. Otherwise, you may not be able to cook or eat! So my opinion is go for veggies!! It will be healthier than other. So at the end, all Indian should eat rice like stuff for six months and salad for the other six months. This is a very good decision made by the government to keep all the citizens healthy!!

Ah! I want to talk about something and keep talking about some other thing. The telecom regulatory authority of India, simply TRAI, is a government authority, which controls the telecom companies, and monitor how they treat their customer or what kind of things they do etc. I think TRAI is here for helping us, letting us enjoy more service with a minimum cost. But rather than helping us, they just help the telecom companies to gain more and more money from us. At first, TRAI pull their hand on the number of massage one can send in a single day and make that only 100. Once you spent 100 massages you can’t send any more to anyone. After a few days, they just increase the number up to 200 per day. Well, 200SMSes per day is enough for us, if we get 200, then we are happy at all. Now the main part, TRAI and the telecom companies says that these 200 massages are free, but you have to recharge your mobile with some certain amount. Once you get these 6000 SMSes (200 SMSes/dayX30 days), you are able to spent it, right? No you are absolutely wrong. Because this is India and anything can be happened here. You have to buy something which is already yours. You have to buy half of these SMSes once again. Do all of you understand? Let’s get to the point; TRAI has just made a new rule. According to that you can’t send more than 100 free or concession massages. If you send more than 100 massages, then every massage will cost you a standard charge, generally Re 1.00 for local and Rs 1.50 for national.

Rule is a rule. But I cannot understand one thing that once you buy 200 massages, then what is the point in buying them once again. As I buy 6000 massages by recharging my phone, after spending 3000 massages, why should I buy the other 3000 SMSes once again? Please somebody help me understanding this logic.(as this is a problem, a solution is also exists, i.e. use as many SIM as you need to send SMSes). I think I have got something. This logic will work only in India. Because this is India (as I said earlier), where a cartoonist can be jailed for drawing the cartoon of a politician, or youth goes behind the bars because of opposing the bandha for the death of a violent loving politician, or taking four years to punish a terrorist who killed hundreds of people without any hesitation.  Now I am really afraid that the government doesn’t put me behind the bars as I am writing this. O God, please help me, I am really scared. Incredible India!!!

i have spent two and a half year in Bhalki. but yesterday i got my worst experience regarding FRIEND. i and hirak went to one of our common frnds home along with that frnd due to some work. we walked together to his home. in front of his house, he say, "this is our neighbour's house, both of u sit in front of this hous for some time, i will be back". and we r there for almost 30 mins.

Barfi....

Barfi... what a name! I thought it will be a comedy movie where Ranvir Kapoor will make us laugh, but instead of my imagination it makes my eyes wet. Really I have not seen any movie like this one in Bollywood. I can say without any hesitation that Barfi is one of the most meaningful movie that was produce from Bollywood. I can bet that any one who watches this movie, surely wet his eyes ( except those who are out of their mind). The movie is a tribute to the great actor Charlie Chaplin and Ranvir Kapoor's grand father Raj Kapoor. In the whole movie you can only find true acting of each of the actors. there is not a single dialogue for Ranvir and for Priyanka Chopra there are only two or three. They surly touch your heart by their acting. One of the central character is Ileana D'cruz's character. In the movie she is the one who loses every body. She gain nothing but the memories of Barfi. But that was totally her fault. She looses every chance to be with him. And when she was with him, it was very late. He was in love with Jhilmil. So she lost again. The movie is one of the best movie I have ever seen. I think every one should watch this......... A great movie after a very long time.... ohh....

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